The Ultimate decision maker is the Husband, but don’t underestimate the influence of a Godly woman

This is focused on marriage but its how Christians should live daily to all people!



We all like Jesus, but we don’t all want to be like him. You admire his humility but do you really want to be that humble. We all think its beautiful when the son of God would get on his knees and wash his disciples’ feet but is that the goal of your life? We’re thankful that Jesus was spit on, but you would never let that happen to you. You love the fact that He laid down his right but you’re going to spend your WHOLE LIFE fighting for yours. When IN FACT it was NEVER your life to begin with! (WOW) You praise him, sing songs to him, love him because He loved you enough to suffer the whole time on this earth for your sake, but your going to make sure you have fun while your down here and that you have a good time. (That is so convicting, especially in the culture we live in where kids our age just want to party and be with our friends livin it up) He is a great savior, but is he a good role model.



1 John 2:6- Whoever claims to have Jesus in him, WILL live like him.


 The question for today is not “are you a good Christian?... but are you a good Christ.” 
When they see you do they think that’s just like Christ? “Man the way he lays down his life is just like Jesus” 
The way I serve my wife do people look and say "that’s just how Jesus treated people".
 When people see that can you say “well my role model is Jesus and although he created everything he still suffered, served, sacrificed for the sake of other people.” 
When people see a submitted wife and say “no one treats others like that” she can say “you should have seen how Jesus submitted to the Father and his Perfect will!  It’s the way the church is supposed to submit to Christ and how I submit to my husband.”


 The purpose of a Christ centered relationship is that when people see it, they see Christ in the man and the woman.



Men are the head, but Jesus is Lord and He still served!!



The main goal of our lives is to be like Jesus, not to like Jesus, same with our marriages. 
When people see men serving through being the head, and women submitting to a husband regardless to circumstance and his actions, they see a couple that honors God.



We’re all under the ultimate authority of God.
 When the man steps out from under the umbrella of Gods authority, women should show her reasons why she won’t listen.



God knows what its like to be married to your husband. He knows the Godly women you could be with an ungodly man that you are submitted to.



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Husbands don’t always deserve respect, but God has given them a position of authority and we need to respect that position even when they don’t deserve it.
And there is a time when you have to respect that position that God has given him.
Our motivation is always a need to honor God and be holy, it’s a need to be more and more like Christ. 
The husband shouldn’t be the motivation. It shouldn’t be about your benefit. (ex. If I treat him good he’ll treat me good) 
If you make your first goal about honoring and serving God, then your husband will naturally be impacted.
The side benefit is that your husband will be drawn to you, he will treat you kinder.



Does that mean that ladies have no say in the family choices? Is all they should say is yes sir? 
The ultimate decision maker is the husband but don’t underestimate the influence of a Godly woman!
 God has given you to his husband as his help mate. Its not good for him to be alone, He did create a suitable helper. Your it. 
You need to be for your husband and not against him, he will benefit from your input, if he knows you are for him. And that he knows that its coming from a heart that is sayin “I am your help mate. I want to help you make the best decisions for our house hold.” 
There will be times when the husband is making decisions that you disagree with, but if you have come to him in such a humble way and give him your perspective, in a good time well thought out at a good time, maybe with scriptures to a believer. Give him all of the wisdom God has given you; tell him your heart and how you feel, explain what your feeling and why. When submission comes in when you are able to say “this is how I feel about it but what ever you say I will be able to go along with it” with a good attitude, b/c no husband wants to drag their wife kicking and screaming, like dead weight that they have to pull around.
 Don’t use manipulation to get your way because that’s outside of Gods will.
 Husbands are accountable of God and that’s a pretty weighty position to be in. 
If he makes decisions with the wrong motives and you can see it clearly, you don’t have to stress out about it, because God sees his heart and will hold him accountable, but he will see how you act and how much you pray and provide information and speak lovingly and be for your husband, and in the end you can say ‘‘ok God I will submit to my husband and I recognize that for now this is your will for our lives even though I don’t see how it could be the right thing.’’ 
That’s trusting in your savior, by realizing that this is just the temporal, and we need to be recognizing that God could be working in your husband in ways that you do not recognize or understand. 
The safest place to be is in the will of God and the will of God is for you to be submitted.



Its about serving and being humble and dying to your selves and being like Christ, to put on love among all else, submission flows out of that mindset. 
If you want to be an excellent wife walk with God aware of his will being filled with the spirit. Try to walk as Jesus walked then you will be the wife he wants you to be. If you really want to be like Christ you won’t have an issue with this. If you’re living like that, when you hear these things you will be like “yeah that’s the way Jesus was”



Jesus was on a throne with millions of angels worshipping him, and he leaves that comforts to come to this tiny planet to become like a man to struggle, to need, to suffer even to love the ones who were about to falsely accuse him and beat him …. All because he loves you so that he could take your beating and most importantly Gods spiritual punishment for you in your place. We think that’s a beautiful story, but do we want to imitate that?? Do we want to have a life like that? That’s where you find real life and true joy. To be like that means we become lower than other people, we love people, we suffer for people, and how much more would we treat our own wives and husbands in that way.





The pastor’s wife had a record deal that she turned down because she knew that if she pursued the deal then she would be going a separate direction than her husband who was trying to start the church. She always wanted that deal but died to her goals to submit to her husband. That’s exactly what Jesus did. He already had the ultimate position and gave it up to submit to God’s will.






Hope you enjoyed! 
This has given me a whollleee new meaning of "submission". we(especially woman) always think of submission as doing exactly what the men say and that the men are just trying to be put above us but in all reality its ALL about doing exactly what the Lord says and putting Christ ahead of us! =]


I hope this has blessed your heart as much as it has mine!


Love,
Taylor!